Article: Why Dads Benefit Boys

Description: Explore the profound influence fathers wield in their sons' lives with our blog, "Nurturing Boys: The Crucial Role of Fathers in Shaping Future Men." Delve into the insightful article by Byron Ricks, where he uncovers eight compelling ways fathers positively impact boys' development. From guiding identity formation to instilling core values, fostering respect, and providing a source of emotional support, discover how fathers play a pivotal role in nurturing well-rounded, confident, and responsible young men. Join us as we delve into the transformative power of fatherly presence and its far-reaching implications for the growth and success of boys on their journey to becoming resilient, compassionate, and capable individuals.

Byron Ricks

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Ways Dads Benefit Boys

Written by Byron Ricks

Date Posted: Friday, 13 March 2009

Countless studies have shown that growing up with a father increases boys' school performance and

decreases their risk of committing a crime and abusing drugs and alcohol. Here are eight more ways

dads influence boys—whether they live in the home or stay involved on a regular basis.

1. Shape their identity. Boys look to fathers in their search for self. Without a father, boys have a

harder time defining who they are and who they want to be. A boy's search for self starts with his


2. Help them belong.The need to belong to a family or tribe is a powerful force in boys.

Having a father in the picture gives them this sense of alliance.

Studies show that boys without fathers are more likely to join gangs—because they have to look outside the family for social acceptance.

3. Influence their values. Boys with fathers are more likely than their fatherless peers to have

economic stability in the household. This gives them a sense of self-worth. There are other values

fathers shape: work ethic, having a healthy relationship, and persevering. (2 of 4)4/3/2009 3:26:54 AM

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4. Demonstrate character. Boys look up to their fathers and imitate what they see. Fathers can

model good character traits like integrity, honesty, courage, restraint, fairness, foresight, and

citizenship. When fathers are absent, boys look to celebrities, popular musicians, or sports figures

for character cues.

5. Teach respect. A father who does not show up for his boy epitomizes disrespect. Present fathers,

on the other hand, can actively teach respectful behaviors such as listening, trust, tolerance,

politeness, and understanding limits.

6. Fill the void. Boys without fathers often feel as though there's something missing, which is why

some fatherless boys turn to sex, pornography, violence, drugs, alcohol, or other self-destructive

behaviors. Having a father helps boys feel complete.

7. Balance ideas about sex. Boys without fathers have a lot of unanswered questions about sex. A

side effect is that they don't talk about sex and get the practical advice that would carry them into

healthy, fulfilling relationships as men. Fathers can give practical advice about girls, sex, wet

dreams, contraceptives, pregnancy, and other topics they are not likely to discuss with their moms.

8. Give them love. Boys who don't have involved fathers often view love as vulnerability, and trust

as a bad thing. Fathers show boys that love means satisfaction and completeness.

Byron Ricks is a certified trainer and seminar leader who

has worked with such companies as Samsung, Fannie Mae,

Pitney Bowes, and ESPN. His new book is Searching for

Dad: Nine Side Effects of Growing up Fatherless and

How to Overcome Them (Brown Books). Byron and his

wife Florence are proud parents of a son and a daughter.

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